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Babbles Nonsense
Babbling with childhood friends about adult confessions w/ Lorie and Lauryn
#179: There's something magical about reuniting with friends who've known you since elementary school – people who witnessed your awkward phases, knew your family dynamics, and remember details about your childhood that even you've forgotten.
In this laughter-filled episode, I'm joined by my two oldest friends in the world, Lori and Lauren, whom I've known since second grade. Together, we answer questions submitted by listeners about everything from our earliest memories together to relationship advice based on our collective decades of experience.
We dive deep into childhood memories – like the time I was terrified at Lorie's slumber party and called my mom to pick me up, or when Lauryn's dad (who was a police officer) would let us watch his work tapes. We discuss who had the strictest parents (definitely Lorie), who was most likely to get arrested first (also Lorie!), and what we were jealous of about each other growing up. There's something uniquely honest about perspectives from people who've known you since you were eight years old.
The conversation takes fascinating turns as we explore how our childhood experiences shaped our adult lives. We talk about career paths none of us expected to take, relationship patterns we've observed in ourselves and each other, and what we wish we could tell our younger selves now. Through fits of giggles and occasional moments of profound reflection, we unpack how growing up in a small town with just "four stoplights" created bonds that have withstood three decades of life changes.
What makes this episode special isn't just the nostalgic stories or the embarrassing revelations – it's the demonstration of how childhood friendships provide a unique mirror to our growth. As we put it near the end, "we went through a lot of tragic stuff at a younger age that most people don't," creating connections that remain strong despite physical distance and busy adult lives. Listen in to this intimate conversation that might inspire you to reach out to your oldest friends and reminisce about the people you were and the adults you've become.
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What is up everyone? Welcome back to another episode of the Babbles Nonsense Podcast. On today's episode, I have my oldest friends, lori and Lauren, here answering all your questions that you submitted on the Q&A box on Instagram, and we are answering everything from like childhood questions to relationships to pretty much anything. So if you are interested and you want to hear a good laugh, this episode is for you. I was nonsense podcast. If you're highly offended, easily turn it off now, because I have my two oldest friends from elementary school on today's episode. My headphones are entirely too loud, so let me turn that down, okay, and we have some questions from y'all's q a this past weekend. Lori and lauren are with me today. Hello, what's up if they act crazy, y'all don't judge me, because I have been trying to give them podcast podcast etiquette and we can't follow directions. So we'll, we'll see. We'll see how this goes. We have some questions from the audience that they want answered and we're going to start with the ones that they asked about y'all's interpretation of me.
Speaker 2:Oh, yeah, I'm ready.
Speaker 1:I'm not ready for this. All right, so we're just going to start. What's your?
Speaker 3:first memory of us hanging out.
Speaker 1:I don't know we were talking about this at lunch. Now I don't know either.
Speaker 2:I can remember playing on the playground with you one, two, three. I'm not your friend, I was a jerk.
Speaker 3:I didn't know what are you talking about. On the swing set, yeah, oh yeah, I didn't know what are you talking about On the swing set.
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh yeah, I dropped the other person, but they can't take up for themselves.
Speaker 1:Really Uh-huh. I don't remember that. So you decided to be my friend, but you didn't want to like, take up for me on the playground.
Speaker 2:I didn't really. No, I said one, two, three. I'm not your friend.
Speaker 1:I liked you. Okay, so first of all let's back it up a little bit. You and Lauren knew each other since what? Kindergarten, age three.
Speaker 2:We took dance together, so when?
Speaker 1:I came in. I moved in to y'all's elementary school in second grade. Do y'all remember that?
Speaker 3:No, I remember you being in school with us, but I don't remember what grade.
Speaker 1:I don't remember you being the new kid but I came in in second grade. I don't remember being the new kid, I don't know how we became friends, but you took me in. Yeah, you were just there. Well, lauren was my neighbor. Yeah, lauren was my neighbor. Laurie took me in. I don't remember how we became friends, but then amy then came along later, which I introduced, amy to la, to Lori and, I think, fourth grade no, this was skating or sixth grade, sixth grade, seventh grade it had to have been going into junior high because I didn't like her.
Speaker 2:What do you mean?
Speaker 1:you didn't like her, y'all literally left me out of everything.
Speaker 2:Listen, she had bangs and she thought she's better than everybody. And I did not like her.
Speaker 1:Until seventh grade you literally blocked me out of everything in y'all's friend group because I was so jealous of y'all all the time that's all in your head no, I wasn't in the skating.
Speaker 1:I've always loved you long time so your first memory of uh of me was on the playground. I don't even know if I have okay, the only might not have been you, I might be lying. So the first memory that I believe I have wasn't when I came to your slumber party and your older brother made us play that stupid crazy game. That was scary af. What was that game that we had to play?
Speaker 2:yeah, it was nightmare. What grade was that?
Speaker 3:Oh gosh, probably second I feel like that was third, Third or fourth yeah.
Speaker 1:And I remember coming and I was like I don't do scary stuff, I just don't. I remember you freaking out.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:And I probably called my mom to come get me. You did.
Speaker 2:I do remember that you did, you left, I remember.
Speaker 1:Yeah, sounds about right. Checks out, checks out, okay. Next question sorry, my phone fell over um. What did you think you'd grow up to be?
Speaker 2:well, I thought that I was going to be a cosmetologist, but I got kicked out of cosmetology. That is a lie.
Speaker 1:That is not what you thought you were going to be a nurse. No, that was after cosmetology. Oh so, so you initially wanted to be cosmetology.
Speaker 3:Okay, I'll still cut your hair lauren, what did you want to be? I don't know. Um, I thought like in high school I'd be a pharmacist, and then I got into that and what do you think?
Speaker 1:a teacher. Can you imagine my patience no, and now, and now, what are?
Speaker 1:you a nurse practitioner and lauren city recorder, and I'm a banker yeah, wild, wild, um, yeah, I wanted to be a teacher and I practiced in my room with do you remember when we were in choir and we got those um what are they called? Like, where you hold the sheet music? Um, but you know what I'm talking about. Like I held the sheet music, I would practice in my room. I had very imagination as a child. I would literally like just be instructing kids like imaginary there were too many kids in my house.
Speaker 2:I was trying to ignore other children all right.
Speaker 1:So the next question was what's something we thought was normal as children but realize now is weird trauma period end of discussion bottom line yeah no, like something we did, what was something we did that we thought was normal.
Speaker 1:That is now weird oh man I don't know either, because I feel like we just had imagination. I know, at lauren's house I don't know if you were there or not, but we played a lot because we were neighbors we would play like there was dead bodies, there was some kind of dead body, there was some kind of dead body game that we played. I don't remember, but I remember there was some kind of dead body and your grandmother played. I don't remember, but I remember there was some kind of dead body and your grandmother rest in peace. Love your grandmother. But also scared us the bejesus, because she literally would come chasing after us all the time because we were in that haunted house down the street from you.
Speaker 2:That was not haunted. That's still there. Yeah, we found his wife's grave and made up this big story.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the last name started with a z I don't remember, because I was scared of everything and I hated y'all for that we were obsessed.
Speaker 3:Remember when we left her brother in the cemetery yes, he was trying to aggravate us and our mom's left yeah, all right.
Speaker 1:Next question what was the dumbest fight we ever had?
Speaker 2:Oh, we've had a few. We always work it out, though. I think it's just difference of opinion.
Speaker 1:Well, I can remember. The one that stands out the most to me is when and we just talked about this at lunch was when we were in high or not in high school, in junior high, high school, high school or not in high school. In junior high, high school, high school.
Speaker 1:Lori just got her driver's license and her and Amy were friends, which I introduced, her and Amy and they became best friends, whatever and she's not salty at all and I was in the back seat and we, like, all we had to do in our small town because we're from a small town, if we didn't mention that we're from a small town and all we had to do was like rip and rot up and down the roads that was all there was to do or drugs, but we decided to forgo the drugs and just to ride up and down Until after high school.
Speaker 2:I'm dead. Let's be honest, I did not do drugs.
Speaker 1:Anyway, speak for yourself.
Speaker 1:Well, I did not because I was terrified because my family, where it was really big, into drugs and I was terrified, but anyways, um, lori was driving crazy when she got her driver's license and I was, we were riding. So basically the way it went is there was like a loop we'd go through Sonic, up through to Walmart, come back to Sonic and then go to Walmart. So Lori was at Sonic and I was like let me out, you're acting crazy, I'm going, you're going to wreck. I just know you're going to wreck. I just know you're going to wreck and I have a very good intuition.
Speaker 3:It's very psychedelic.
Speaker 1:And I saw my brother's friend there and I was like, let me out, this person will take me home. You let me out and you're like, whatever, you're crazy. What happened?
Speaker 2:five minutes later, Lori, In my defense when she got out of the cars because I pulled into Sonic in front of someone and she said you're going to kill us, but we did not die, obviously.
Speaker 1:And then later that night, Not later that night, it was literally 15 minutes later.
Speaker 2:Later that night from my version of the story one of my friends was coming up. It was really stupid. We were racing uphill and a car was coming and I was in the wrong lane so I thought he was going to let me get in front of him. He thought I was getting behind him and so I ran him off into a ditch, but neither one of us were hurt and my mom did not know until literally her deathbed when my sister ratted me out.
Speaker 1:Regardless, I had a good we did not die.
Speaker 2:You could have, but we didn't.
Speaker 1:And you literally texted me 15 minutes after I got a car and you said we were in a wreck. And I was like yeah, figures tracks, story tracks.
Speaker 2:She's fine. What about you, Lauren? Trauma builds character.
Speaker 1:What about you, Lauren? Do you remember any fights? I don't.
Speaker 3:I don't know.
Speaker 2:I don't, I don't know I don't either.
Speaker 3:I don't feel like we ever got in a really fight I think, it was just me and laurie always fighting yeah, I don't feel like me and laurie have ever really been in a fight.
Speaker 1:I was always in a fight with laurie because of jealousy. I was like why do you like them over me? And yet here I am in your house right now, loving you the most is it all right question for all three of us who had the strictest parents? Listen, denise was crazy. Laurie definitely had the strictest parents just one, just one parent. Yeah, I think I think it was probably laurie then mine than yours lauren, because lauren's parents literally was like whatever but I think we respected them because they weren't so crazy on us.
Speaker 1:You know which is crazy because lauren's dad was a cop, so you would think that her parents would be the most strict right, like when y'all went skating.
Speaker 3:I wasn't allowed to do that yeah I wasn't allowed to do that.
Speaker 2:But then but I think because your dad was a cop. He knew we were gonna do those things.
Speaker 1:So right, which I wasn't allowed to go skating, but like my mom was like only if you find a ride home, and I think I was like 12 years old yeah, we were 12 years old at the sonic at midnight that's probably why I wasn't allowed to go
Speaker 1:yeah, that's very true. Like my mom was, like as long as you have a ride home, as long as I don't have to get out remember that time I flipped that guy off and he followed us to your house no, I don't regina was so mad at me and I was scared.
Speaker 2:that's the last time I threw a bird in public. How old were you? Well, we were riding with Regina, so we had to be junior high we went to your house.
Speaker 1:Maybe that is hilarious. Okay, so what was your biggest fear as a child? I'll go first the dark.
Speaker 3:Checks out.
Speaker 1:I was always scared of the dark.
Speaker 2:I had to sleep with my tv on. I was scared of people. Yeah, well, because, of trauma that happened in my life, like I knew what people were capable of okay, do you want to elaborate or no? No, okay, that'll be another podcast. We can all cry together.
Speaker 3:Therapy session I don't really know um. I was scared of snakes and like people also my dad made me scared to death of like strangers see, and I had no stranger danger.
Speaker 1:I was just like, oh the dark.
Speaker 3:I was like I was scared of guns too also well, your dad had one yeah, but he made me scared to death of him okay well, I remember he used to make us watch his tapes after he would get off work.
Speaker 2:really, yeah, I didn't get to watch. I don't tapes after he would get off work. Really, yeah, I didn't get to watch those. I don't actually think he made us, I think we snuck in there and watched them.
Speaker 3:You begged him to handcuff you to the door one time I begged other people to handcuff me to the door too, okay so who was the class clown in the group?
Speaker 1:I don't know.
Speaker 3:Probably me. We're all really funny.
Speaker 1:I think we're all pretty funny equally yeah, like I think I was in trouble a lot for always, like trying to like just make people laugh I was just talking about you the other day what were you saying?
Speaker 3:in economics class. How much god, but scotty, oh my god.
Speaker 1:And then how much hell we gave mr smith yes, me and scotty were always, always doing something okay. So this one's a question for y'all about me and screw whoever wrote this. But what was jonna like in school, smart?
Speaker 3:was I? Yeah, I don't remember. I've always been type a too and very determined, organized that was not what I was expecting.
Speaker 1:I was expecting laurie to talk about how, like after school, I literally forced her.
Speaker 2:You were annoying as shit. Jonah thought she was going to grow up to be mariah carey and I supported her dreams her in that portable cd player yes I supported her dreams and I listened and I'm pretty sure I applauded her and did a standing ovation at times.
Speaker 2:But no, I really that I didn't deserve. I looked up to your drive because you had to do everything yourself, like there wasn't nobody there pushing you. Like my mom was like oh you got a 95, you better get a 98 next time. And you gotta do this, you gotta do this. And I didn't give a crap but I had to because I was scared of her.
Speaker 1:You drove yourself because you wanted to beat the statistics yeah, you were a driving force yeah, I mean, I remember that, like I've talked about this on the podcast before, like I've literally like my like, not saying my parents didn't care, but my parents didn't care, like if I would have brought home straight ups they would have been like, well, you know, you did the best you could.
Speaker 1:Yeah yeah, you know I didn't have parents like like laurie or lauren, that were like uh-uh, uh-uh, you ain't bringing that in this house, not happening. Um, I just remember like literally forcing laurie bless her heart. I thought I was the next american idol. I don't know. I was here to support you. So you say okay. So let's see what else somebody said to say what would you tell your younger self now for the most advice or the best advice that you would give?
Speaker 2:honestly, I think that everything that we did good and bad shaped us, so I don't know. I feel like you had to go through those things to be who. You are right, so I I drank a lot in junior high and high school and I did not, which is not normal yeah she did I can remember jonna telling me that I was an alcoholic.
Speaker 3:I remember that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah, because but, if I wouldn't have done those things when my life turned out like this. I mean it could have turned out opposite. I could be an alcoholic, and I'm not. But I just feel like all those things and all those situations that you get yourself into shape you into the person you are. You just have to choose which path you're going to take. You're gonna keep down that road, or if you're gonna do better for yourself. But I wish I. I mean, my mom was nuts, but I wish I would have loved her a little harder. You know what I mean. Like yeah well looking.
Speaker 1:Okay, for example, let's let's elaborate that. So your mom recently passed and so, like I know, we all used to think like your mom was very strict. Your mom was very like hard on us or hard on you, but like, looking back, like in the moment, I think we were like god, she's just so strict, she's so hard, but like now that we know what we know now, and like what she was trying to teach you because we're older now it was more that she wanted the best out of you. She wanted you to the to be the best version of yourself, and she knew what your capabilities were oh yeah, I definitely think she could have went about things better.
Speaker 2:But the stress that she was under I understood when I became a single mom and I totally get it. And and now that I know more about my dad, even though he's passed just stories people have told me that they think is funny.
Speaker 1:But I'm like, yeah, selling drugs is cool, not, you know, like no wonder my mom was crazy well, and when we were, when we were younger, I remember like you idolized your dad a lot and like you thought your mom was just very strict on you. So like, look like in that moment when we're 12, 15 years old and you're like god, mom, like why are you so strict? But like my dad over here, he's so cool, like he's so this. But then you hear the stories now, because we're almost in our 40s. That is a little bit different.
Speaker 2:You don't have to say that so loud well, I think I look good for almost being 40, so I don't care. You do you? Know, definitely what about you, lauren.
Speaker 3:I think my advice would be we were in such a hurry to grow up that is literally, and I think that it would be. I would tell myself slow down, enjoy it while we have it, because adulthood is not the best. It's not that great.
Speaker 1:I think it's the same. Like I don't remember being very smart in school, but I do know like in college I was very stringent and type A, so I guess I was that way when I was in school with y'all. I wish I would have stopped and just enjoyed the moment a little bit more, but I don't feel like I had that opportunity. Like enjoyed the moment a little bit more, but I don't feel like I had that opportunity. Like I've talked about this on my podcast before like my sister always was in trouble and I always felt like I had to be so good and I had to do everything so right to not like make my parents upset with me. So I felt like I didn't have that opportunity to be a kid. And so like I think I wish, like knowing now, I wish I would have looked back and been able to say it's okay to just screw up every now and then, it's okay to have fun, it's okay to just sow your wild oats right.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that was probably part of my problem. I think I had a little too much fun and I wasn't and I didn't.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I still don't. I should have been, I didn't until after my divorce that I had a lot of fun, all right. So the next question is who had the worst taste in crushes back then, and do they still?
Speaker 2:I was not boy crazy.
Speaker 1:I don't think I was either I wasn't boy crazy either, but all the crushes I had are now into men, so I don't know if that says about me.
Speaker 2:You did have the worst taste and probably still do well, except for one.
Speaker 3:He was precious mine haven't been great. Who was?
Speaker 2:precious you can say that andrew, yeah, rip andrew, yeah, we loved him loved andrew.
Speaker 1:That's probably the normal crush I probably had. He was my first love, love him. He was a sweetie he was, but like the other guys that I was like high school and junior high was either turned out to be gay nothing wrong with gay, not saying that, I'm just saying like, but obviously not into being and then or like the bad boys that really don't want a girlfriend yeah, it's a good thing that those did not turn into more than they were yeah, but still going down that path.
Speaker 1:So, um, maybe more therapy would help yeah, we'll venmo you venmo me some therapy monday to be fair.
Speaker 3:We didn't have a lot of options no, I mean yeah, it was bad boys or gay boys.
Speaker 1:Yeah, pretty much. I mean okay, in all fairness, I didn't know they were into men.
Speaker 3:We didn't know. We didn't know Like it came out later. I knew, Lori knew.
Speaker 2:I knew Lori didn't tell me as my best friend, oh, I did, you just weren't listening. No, you didn't. Yeah, one for sure, your cousin. He is not my cousin.
Speaker 3:Yes, he is. He was married in. Who are we talking?
Speaker 2:about. We'll tell you off the podcast. Okay, so what's the biggest secret? We never told our parents.
Speaker 1:Well, until my mom was dying when I wrecked my car. Thanks, Kaylee.
Speaker 3:I think I told my mom everything in high school. I did not. Yeah, I told my mom everything in high school. I did not. I, yeah, I told my mom everything. What's the biggest secret? The double life. What's the?
Speaker 1:biggest thing that does? She still not know. Can you say it on this podcast? I don't really talk to her that much now she's not, she doesn't listen to this podcast, I can promise you. I can see who listens from winchester.
Speaker 3:But I mean, I mean I talk to her, but like I don't talk to her, so I don't really know do you like?
Speaker 1:do you think of anything like back that you did in high school, junior high, that you're just like?
Speaker 3:I mean, I've lived a double life no, you didn't.
Speaker 2:What are you talking about? Oh yeah, her parents have no idea and I drank heavy from 14 until like laurie's like I'm telling it all.
Speaker 1:Both my parents are dead.
Speaker 2:Nobody's listening everyone's dead, so there's that, but honestly. I mean tore down, and she thought I was just babysitting weren't you drunk in the front yard once?
Speaker 1:listen, I went over there while she was babysitting and she was. She was like here, do you want this peach schnapps?
Speaker 2:I was like no, I don't the kids are still alive, for the record.
Speaker 3:They're thriving adults who love the lord, but wasn't it like 9 am and you were passed out in the yard?
Speaker 1:no, it was probably getting close to evening you can't think of a secret, lauren no other than like hiding boyfriends and what do you mean? Hiding boy? Oh yeah, all right, let's see what is the next question. Who would have gotten arrested for? Who would have gotten arrested first in high school if we were in a movie? Lori for sure she was always the instigator. I still am. No, you're not. You have children. You should work with me, you're like they're responsible.
Speaker 1:You're both responsible now I am responsible I have children I'm only responsible because I'm asleep by 6 30 pm I'm still not responsible you're responsible for people's lives every day. What do you mean? Not anymore when I worked in the hospital, like now, I do disability exams and you're responsible. You go to work every day.
Speaker 3:I'm responsible from 8 to 4, 30 that's all that matters don't ask me for nothing, all right, next question what rumor did you hear about yourself growing up?
Speaker 2:that was totally false or totally true that I was a lesbian, and I was not nothing wrong with being a lesbian, but I wasn't I never heard that rumor yes, when was that in high school?
Speaker 1:yes, who started?
Speaker 2:I don't remember that I'm not gonna say her name on here, but it sign language oh, oh yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 1:I don't remember a rumor about myself.
Speaker 3:I was pregnant, evidently her entire senior year. Yeah, oh, I remember.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't know if this was rumor y'all, maybe I made this up in my head. But after, like, I got like when I developed, um, and you know my sister was very promiscuous like there was a lot of rumors around me that I was promiscuous when I was very not promiscuous I was the most prudest person you'll ever meet in your entire life, but I think that rumor went around about me in high school yeah yeah, so that was just based off family history.
Speaker 1:Family history and people just assumed but jealous virgin still am okay right um, next question what was something you were jealous of, and of each other back then? I don't know.
Speaker 1:I'll go, so she's like I've been waiting for this so lauren I was very jealous because we were neighbors and you did seem to have such a good family dynamic until we, like we opened up, we talked about your family dynamic but from the outside, looking in, you look like you have the perfect family, and so that was like something I really was jealous of, because you had this perfect mom, perfect dad. It was almost like the stefford wife family that you y'all portrayed to have, yeah. But you know we've talked since then, laurie, you know we talked about this at lunch today. I was very jealous the fact that I brought amy into our circle she's still not letting go
Speaker 2:listen, everybody loves them.
Speaker 1:Some laurie and you we were best we were besties for the resty and you cut me out of your life for old amy. I didn't cut you out, you cut me out for making stuff. No, no no, no, for a brief moment in time, because you didn't like the fact that I was real and told you how it was.
Speaker 2:no, she did tell me how it was, and, and I was not trying to hear that- Lori, can you think of? Anything. No, I mean, I loved Lauren's family but I feel like they treated me just like I was theirs and I loved that and I craved that. And then like I felt like your house was just so fun because nobody gave a crap about anything.
Speaker 1:My mom didn't even notice. I was there half the time.
Speaker 2:So I don't really think I was ever jealous of y'all. I just loved, having y'all.
Speaker 3:Like y'all benefited my life. I was jealous, but I loved coming to Lori's house because it was chaos all the time.
Speaker 1:Do y'all watch Jenny in Georgia?
Speaker 2:No, it scares me. I like feel good stuff. I've had enough drama in my life.
Speaker 1:It's really good. Anyways, I relate the second season. Spoiler alert. Turn it off if you don't hear. So there's a girl in there and I can't remember her name, but she's best friends with Jenny and she is very jealous because, like Jenny starting to become friends with her friends and I was like, yeah, rings a bell. I literally started crying during it. Dead serious, lauren, can you think of any jealousy moments?
Speaker 3:I was just jealous of like how y'all's houses you got to do what you wanted.
Speaker 1:Like going skating at 11 o'clock at night yeah.
Speaker 3:Being on the phone after 10 o'clock. It was trouble. It was I acted out later.
Speaker 1:I was sneaking around, though, yeah, it was trouble, it was. There was a lot of sneaking around, though, yeah, okay. Um, next question who would have gotten arrested first in high school if we were in a movie? Definitely lori.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's still questionable, did you?
Speaker 1:ever get arrested.
Speaker 2:I feel like.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 3:No.
Speaker 2:I've gotten tickets for reckless driving and, funny enough, actually, I only got one for reckless driving. Did I tell y'all what happened to me in?
Speaker 1:college before I was 21?.
Speaker 1:I don't know if I've told this story on the podcast, so I know I've talked about like my ex-lover of 17 years we won't, you know, know name to me, not spoken, but y'all know who I'm talking about. So I was on the way to his house and my friends were there like sorority friends and everything was not drinking. I did not drink until I was 21, um, and I was driving down the street like 25 miles an hour and my phone went off and it fell into the floor and I was trying to reach over to get it out of the passenger side and I obviously swerved up into someone's yard and hit a tree, a very small tree, did no damage to my car, did no damage to the tree right, panicked, backed up left, went to my friend's house that was around the corner. Little did I know cop lived across the street and apparently like backwoods cop, like almost retired, like thought he had all this authority, comes around like probably five minutes later and he was like who wrecked into this car?
Speaker 1:Like obviously I went inside and told everybody right and, um, I come out, and I was like I did it or whatever, and he was like get in the back of the cop car right now you've been drinking, did it? I was like I I haven't been drinking. Actually I was like I was texting and driving. But um, actually I wasn't texting. I was trying to reach for my phone and all I was leaning over into the passenger seat and I remember this guy that I was in love with at the time. He was like get your ass in the house, don't answer anybody that says anything. I was like I don't know what to do. I've never been in trouble by the law. But then I had to get back in the cop car, handcuffed, really yes terrified.
Speaker 1:Then after that um, you know, obviously he had no authority to like arrest me. I didn't do anything like it literally did no damage to the tree. I didn't hurt anyone, did no damage to the car. I was going 20 miles an hour. The tree was like a. It was like it wasn't like an oak tree, it was like a little twig. It was like. It was like he was just being a dick.
Speaker 1:He thought he was gonna find somebody drinking he thought he thought I was drinking and I wasn't, and I think he even even made me like blow into the whatever and I I wasn't drinking, and um, because I typically always drove everyone downtown because I wasn't drinking and um, I remember when we went downtown it was just like mood kill, like everybody was just like okay, this is not as fun as we thought. Did I never told you all that? No, I don't think so. All right, so the next one is what rumor did you hear about yourself growing up that was totally false or totally true.
Speaker 2:We already did this one no, we didn't we did both of those already not a rumor.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we did okay. Well, uh, maybe I read it. Okay, what was something you were jealous of? Oh, we already did that one too. These are duplicates. Um, who was actually the quote-unquote mean kid but pretended they weren't?
Speaker 2:john's looking at me like it's me.
Speaker 1:No, I thought you were looking at me like it was me, no.
Speaker 2:I don't think any of us were mean to each other. I don't either. We might have been mean to other people, I'm still mean.
Speaker 1:Alright, what's? One thing we still haven't outgrown, for better or worse?
Speaker 2:How giggly we are we have laughed this whole time and it has been so good for my soul, my anxiety.
Speaker 1:Trauma.
Speaker 2:Trauma.
Speaker 1:Trauma is what makes us so funny. It is what's something you wish we could say to our childhood selves now, even if it would break their hearts.
Speaker 2:Respect your parents Everyone gonna die.
Speaker 3:It will happen to you, even if you think it won't yeah, and he doesn't love you yeah yeah, that one.
Speaker 1:Um, I think, because I had such, like you know, different relationships with my parents, I think the biggest thing if it, even if it their heart, would be like your parents are doing the best they can, and sometimes it's not what you want to hear and sometimes you have to just realize, like you are still loved and, you know, cared for, but maybe not in the way that you want to be.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I need my daughter to listen to this and hear that my mom is actually doing the best for you, I promise, and it and you know I've talked about this in my podcast before.
Speaker 1:I've been very vulnerable about like how me and my mom are best friends. Lori knows it Like I would stay at home and watch Lifetime movies with my mom instead of going to football games. But then it became like more of like my mom choosing my sister over me, but it was because mom's sister was in a lot of trouble all the time. But but really like, looking back, like I know she cared for me, but her mindset was you're doing good, you can handle yourself. Like your sister needs me more than you, but in my mindset, because I am still single, I don't have a family. It's like what child doesn't need their mom? Oh yeah. So my advice not from a child perspective, but if a parent's listening to this stop choosing favorites in your children and stop thinking that a child who does well doesn't need you, because honestly, they probably need you more than you think. Just because a child is strong does not mean that they don't have weak moments or a weak mind.
Speaker 2:And I think that goes for all three of us in our spots, in our family, because I think a lot was put on me because my mom was like, you can handle this you're okay yeah, when deep down, I was like I'm not okay, right, I need you to, to just hold it all on your own and not put it on me right Right. I agree.
Speaker 1:All right. So then, if our friend group was a reality show, what would it be called and who would be the villain? It would definitely be called the Giggly Squad. Sorry, paige, we're stealing your name. Who would be the villain, lori for?
Speaker 2:sure, yeah, I like to stir stuff up. I wouldn't say villain.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying villain in a mean person, but I think that you would be the dramatic character that would keep the reality drama going. Yeah, y'all are welcome.
Speaker 2:You're welcome. Who wants to watch a show without that?
Speaker 1:You're welcome for that paycheck I gave you. Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm not saying like you would be like mean or anything but all right, let's see who secretly hooked up with someone and never told anyone.
Speaker 1:Spill it now I'm married, love you guys. Jesse is not gonna listen to this she said I kissed brandon in the back of virginia's car brandon who still spill the tea.
Speaker 3:I mean, it wasn't like hook up.
Speaker 1:Hook up because I was very innocent but we did kiss in the back of virginia's car on the way to sonic after skating ring went up.
Speaker 2:I was very innocent. In high school I had a high school sweetheart, like you were. You were basically married in high school until after I was 21, almost 22, yeah really okay I was wilding out yeah, you are tell us give initials. Is there something we don't know?
Speaker 1:I'm sure there is and you're not going to spill it now I need to think about it first, she said when everyone's dead yeah, all right, now I have a few questions that people ask. That's not necessarily like about us growing up or whatnot, but they're just questions. So someone asked what's something guys do that they think is a flex, but women actually find cringy Everything.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh. Well, coming from where I work in the bank, I don't care how much money you have, Like you're not that I think talking about your money is disgusting.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I do. I think that, like, talking about money is cringy, like if you think that, oh, this is going to impress me, but also, at the same time, like if you're just over talking women in general, like if you think, like I'm such a high masculine energy and you don't bring nothing to the table. It's a vibe, right, like it's hard to explain, but women can sense it automatically. It's like, wow, okay, you're just nah, we're not doing this. Do y'all know what I'm talking about?
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, I work with all guys.
Speaker 2:So Do y'all know what I'm talking about? Oh yeah, I work with all guys, so I mean I get it. I think it's attractive for a man to act like, even if he's not, that he's impressed with you and your accomplishments.
Speaker 3:You know what I mean, you know what I think just gives me the ultimate ick is sending unsolicited pics.
Speaker 2:It's not cute. Nobody wants to see that. Nobody wants to see it. Also, I haven't had that happen a lot.
Speaker 1:But yeah, like I'm sorry, like okay, let's just put this out there the women, the, the female body, the reason why women send nudes is because female bodies are just more attractive than male bodies and and I'm clearly heterosexual I think that I'm very attracted to men. But when it comes to like unsolicited dick pics is what you're talking about, like I'm sorry, there has never been someone that sent me that. That I'm like, yes, let's jump in the bed right now, because women are not visual creatures. Women are turned on by their mind, emotions, things like that.
Speaker 1:Compliments will get you everywhere yeah, stimulate my brain stimulate my brain, have a deep conversation, and I'm just like you. I don't even know what you look like. If you're intellectually like, just yeah with it yes, let me talk now. I get it cook like I get it from a man's perspective, like if they're like, if I, if you, you send a unsolicited nude, they're just like well, all right, then it's like but? But also, men have to understand that we're wired differently and the visual does not do it for women.
Speaker 1:Women are wanting you to say something back like oh yeah, you look great something or if, even if it's just like foreplay through a text message, like it's more about that mental stimulation than just trying to like be like hey, hon, I'm gonna come home, I'm gonna wash the dishes for you, I want you to kick your feet up, I'm gonna give you a foot massage.
Speaker 2:Justin Moore, do you hear this? You?
Speaker 3:know, what.
Speaker 1:I'm saying, and then you're just like what Okay, okay, daddy, okay.
Speaker 2:Zeddy, zeddy.
Speaker 1:Zeddy, all right. So the next question was if you had to pick one quotequote red flag that women secretly love, what would it be? Well, I, since I go for all the red flags, let's just throw it out there. Red flags that I probably like, that I ignore is probably that over masculine energy that literally does cut me off, cuts me down, you know, not saying I love it, but that I ignore it, like. Sometimes it's a turn on like because in the beginning it seems like it's a very like masculine thing, you're taking charge, it's intriguing, but really at the end of the day, like, the longer it goes on, it's more that you're just putting me down yeah, see, and my husband is the total opposite of red flag he is a giant green flag.
Speaker 2:And at first I was like no, sir, you are way too nice. There ain't no way that you are really into me, because I am not that nice, and thank God that he stayed around, but he's just, he's so nice.
Speaker 1:Another red flag too attractive. If you're too attractive, I think in my mind, like all of a sudden, I go player player. Yeah, I think in my mind, like all of a sudden, I go player player. Yeah, and are you looking at me? Yeah, like, why are you looking at me like I'm not at your level, like you're. You're a 10, I'm a 7, you, you playing somebody.
Speaker 2:John, you are a solid 9.75, sweet, but no sweet, but no.
Speaker 1:Next question what's the most hilarious or bizarre misconception you think men have about women? That we need them yes and no, I don't. I think men are becoming more aware that we don't with social media, I'm trying to think what do men that will never leave? Yeah right, the big misconception with men is that women will never leave. I can treat them how I want to treat them I can. I can keep doing this, I can keep getting away.
Speaker 2:They'll never leave me and here's the thing women are done before you know they're done. Yep, so don't let it get to that.
Speaker 1:We've already checked out way before you know it right, and women do give multiple chance after chance, after chance after chance, and you never know when that chance is going to be up. You just don't. But I think we, we clock it right, like we clock it internally and like we, we get to the point where our belly is full and then it's like I'm full, I'm good, I'm gone, yeah, and then it's too late, there's nothing you can say, nothing you can do, there's nothing you can do to change your mind. But then, on the flip side of that, I'll also all answer this for men, men. So women think that men will never. No, wait, men think that women will never change. Right, leave, women think that men will never change.
Speaker 1:So it's that, that's that counterintuitive like. So men, men will sit there and they won't change and they'll keep doing what they're doing and doing, and doing, and doing. And women are over there hoping they'll change. They'll change, they'll be that, that, that vision that I have for them. They'll be that. Um, what's the word? Not vision? Um, oh god, now it can't come to me. Um, we seek potential, like women, seek potential, potential, potential, potential, and then it's never coming to fruition. So women keep trying to seek that potential and it's like this this, this circle, you know, but then eventually the woman changes and or the woman leaves and the man never changes.
Speaker 1:So yeah next question if you could put one universal rule in the quote-unquote dating handbook for men, what would it be? And why be honest? Just be honest. So, like I am in the dating game Lauren, you're seeing someone, um, laura, you're married. I'm always dating.
Speaker 1:My thing is just be very honest up front, like if you know for a fact that you don't want to date, you want to hook up. You maybe just want a friend and you don't want to go any further. Just be honest. Like I get it. It's not going to take you a lot with with a lot of women, but there are some women that respect that. Like I was on a dating app recently and this man literally like we matched and he was like I just want you to know I'm not looking for anything. I just got out of a long-term relationship, but I am just looking like either for hookups or whatever. If you're down for that, let's continue to talk. And I literally respected it. I was like it's not what I'm looking for, but thank you so much for not wasting my time.
Speaker 2:And obviously I'm married. I'm not dating anymore, but even just friends in general. If I catch somebody lying about something stupid, immediately I'm like we ain't, we ain't friends. I cannot handle it. I don't care what you did, just be honest. I hate to catch somebody in a stupid lie.
Speaker 3:Yeah. Yeah, I'm a big communicator too.
Speaker 2:like just communicate with me yeah, because what if something big does happen?
Speaker 3:then I really am not gonna believe you, yeah, don't lie to me or on me.
Speaker 1:Yes, yes okay, whoever wrote this next one, screw you. Why is jonna single and why do you guys think jonna is single? Well, I'm single because I keep going for situationships for guys that think make me think that they want to be with me. That's my story and I'm sticking to it I think jonna is for one.
Speaker 2:She stays single because she doesn't settle, which I respect yeah, I think it's wonderful.
Speaker 2:I don't think you should, because then you're just in an unhappy marriage. But I think that Jonna also doesn't see her full worth, a thousand percent, and I think sometimes she doesn't give men like she settles for the ones that put her in this situation. But there are some men that I don't think she gives enough time to get to know them. She's immediately like no, that I'm not into that type or I'm not into this, and I'm like just let it, let it simmer a minute, just see you might end up liking it yeah yeah, maybe I didn't think my husband and I would be married with a mortgage and two kids, so all right, a few more questions, um.
Speaker 1:What did you study in college, what was your career goal and how did you get here?
Speaker 2:so I did not, I didn't go to college right out of high school. Well, I did for three days, because I like to drink and party yeah but I went back as a single mom, working full-time and overtime and doing all on my own, and I went for um. I have my bachelor's in business oh, I thought you had accounting. Well it well. My associate's degree is in accounting. My bachelor's degree is in business okay, lauren.
Speaker 3:I went to four-year and a university I can't talk um for accounting. Enjoyed college way too much so did not finish. But now I work um in accounting. Really, I didn't know it was accounting. Yeah, recorder, the city recorder, like I record everything the city brings in oh okay, keep up with all the finances well, I studied college or studied college.
Speaker 1:I studied nursing in college, um, but that was not my career goal. I really thought I was going to be a teacher. I almost quit nursing school 500 times my my grade though what?
Speaker 3:what grade did you want to teach?
Speaker 1:probably junior high high school, because I definitely don't have the patience for elementary.
Speaker 1:I can see you with older kids yeah, um, but I, um, all my friends, it was like no, you've come this far in nursing, you can't quit. And so how did I get there? I literally got there because we lived in a small town and I had a lot of older brothers and sisters that were always in and out of trouble and I knew that I did not want to stay. So I knew I had to figure out a way out, and so nursing was a way out. We had an associate's degree nursing in town. But then, you know, I followed the guy that I was in love with for 17 years down to a university college and I'll be honest, like I cannot regret doing that, because I would not be where I was if I didn't do that. I would probably still be in my small town, and who knows where I would be.
Speaker 2:I loved your college experience too. What when I would come down and hang out with you and your sorority sisters?
Speaker 1:it was a great time I mean, yeah, we had a good time, we had fun, we had fun. All right, let's see. Um, we already did remind me, if we answer this, because this is a different person that asked what advice would you give to your younger? Self that we okay, I thought we did what twist and turns has your professional career taking?
Speaker 2:well, I almost quit twice and I've been at my job for 17 years, not because of anything they did, just because I thought okay, I'm gonna go, I'm gonna go into nursing this time.
Speaker 1:And then I got a promotion and I was like okay, I'm just gonna stay here you didn't answer the last question then, because the last question said um, what was your career goal? So your career goal was not to be in what you're in, no, no, it wasn't.
Speaker 2:But my ex-husband had a wreck In high school. I wanted to be a nurse at the end of high school and then I was like, no, I don't want to do that, I just want to get a job, because I already lived on my own when we were in our senior year and I just needed to make money. And then he had a wreck and was still paralyzed from the waist down and I thought, okay, I take care of him, I could definitely go into nursing, I'm gonna do that. Well then, I ended up not doing that, and I'm glad, because when you take care of someone you love, it's totally different than taking care of strangers let's just even back it up even further.
Speaker 1:Before that you, literally throughout high school, said you were going to be a nurse yeah, yeah, like that was. You always wanted to be a nurse always, always, always wanted to be a nurse, and then all that happened.
Speaker 2:And then you were like, no, this isn't well, I decided no before that, because I remember in clinicals we were in the emergency room and this little old lady came in and they had to put a catheter in her and they let us watch me. And who was my partner? It wasn't me, cause I remember I was in the nursing home, not the ER, but um that little lady cried while they put her catheter in and it broke me and I was like no my grandmother bit somebody when they put a catheter in her.
Speaker 3:I would too, and they had to get a tetanus shot. Four nurses for my little grandmother, let me tell you.
Speaker 1:No, no, no, no, no, no. I was about to say these little old people are stronger than the Hulk. Yeah, they are. Like you literally have to get like five, six people to hold down.
Speaker 3:She hulked out all 90 pounds of her, yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I was like I can't do that.
Speaker 1:That broke me I still think that you should be a nurse. That's just anyways. The last question was not for y'all, it was for me. How has the house issues been going? Is it resolved? No, unfortunately it has not. I really can't talk about it at this moment. So as soon as I can talk about it, I will definitely update you all when I can. So it's all I can say is it's just not resolved as of yet. So that's all I can say.
Speaker 1:So well, thank y'all so much for doing this podcast with me. That's all the questions that anyone has um asked. Is there anything else so that we need to tell anybody that we left out? Keep your friends close. Yeah, I mean I think that we're very lucky in the fact that I know a lot of people say that they don't have a lot of close friends, but like we, there's the core four of us that from you know. Like I said, I've known y'all since second grade and we've grown up together, and even the people that I have in college, like Megan and Mal and them, like I've known them from over 10 years, and that's very rare to have friends that last over 10 years, right well, we don't see each other all the time.
Speaker 2:Even Lauren and I live in the same town, yeah, and we don't see each other very much at all, and then you're in Huntsville, so we don't see you a lot either, but it's like we never skip a beat no right.
Speaker 1:But also even the fact that, like me and Lauren don't talk a lot about we catch up on beat no right. But also even the fact that, like me and lauren don't talk a lot about we catch up on facebook and stuff, but, like laurie and me snapchat every single day. It's almost like I talk to you more than anyone I've ever talked to and I almost like like because it's video chat. It's like I see you, like I see your kids, like you know I've talked, like your daughter will be like who are you talking to? Yeah, so I love that and I love that. You know, we do have a good friendship that has lasted, you know, the test of time, because that is very rare we've been through it all we have literally you guys are my childhood.
Speaker 1:Yeah, agreed, yeah and there's, and you know, people do grow apart and that's okay, you know whatnot. But also at the same time, I think we went through a lot of like tragic stuff at a younger age that most people don't and maybe we should have gotten a little bit deeper on this podcast. But maybe this is just the warm-up, but we did go through a lot of tragic things as children together so I think it kind of bonded us for life. Um, and also we were from a very small town, so I know a lot of people that listen to this podcast are in huntsville. So huntsville is not really I'm sure it was considered a small town at one point, but it's not really a small town anymore.
Speaker 3:Um, but like when we say small town, like like four stoplights- yeah, like we graduated with like what 200 and something and that's the whole county yeah, minus, yeah, I mean it was small and they only had like 30 yeah, yeah, but thank you so much for doing this, because people put in and thank you guys for sending in the questions for us.
Speaker 1:We enjoyed answering them. Is there anything else y'all want to say?
Speaker 3:we love you, yeah, we love you all right, love y'all too all right guys, until next time.
Speaker 1:Bye, thank you.
